The way we talk and the words we choose say a lot about what we think and value. When we use positive adoption language, we say that adoption is a way to build a family just as birth is. Both are important, but one is not more important than the other.
Choose positive adoption language instead of the negative language that helps perpetrate the myth that adoption is second best. By using positive language, we reflect the true nature of adoption, free of inuendo.
Positive language can stop the spread of misconceptions. By using positive adoption language, we educate others about adoption. We choose emotionally "correct" words over emotionally laden words. We speak and write in positive adoption language with the hopes of impacting others so that this language will someday become the norm. By Nadeen Kristel M. Narcisco
Birthparent not real parent
Biological parent not natural parent
Biological or birth father not real father
Birth child not own child
My child not adopted child, own child
Born to unmarried parents not illegitmate
Terminate parental rights not give up
Make adoption plan not give away
Waiting child not Adoptable / available child
Making contact with not reunion
Parent not adoptive parent
Download the PDF of Adoption Language by Marainne Guilfoyle, LCSW.