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Positive Language

The way we talk and the words we choose say a lot about what we think and value. When we use positive adoption language, we say that adoption is a way to build a family just as birth is. Both are important, but one is not more important than the other.

Choose positive adoption language instead of the negative language that helps perpetrate the myth that adoption is second best. By using positive language, we reflect the true nature of adoption, free of inuendo.

Positive language can stop the spread of misconceptions. By using positive adoption language, we educate others about adoption. We choose emotionally "correct" words over emotionally laden words.  We speak and write in positive adoption language with the hopes of impacting others so that this language will someday become the norm. By Nadeen Kristel M. Narcisco

Birthparent not real parent
Biological parent not natural parent
Biological  or birth father not real father
Birth child not own child
My child not adopted child, own child
Born to unmarried parents not illegitmate
Terminate parental rights not give up
Make adoption plan not give away
Waiting child not Adoptable / available child
Making contact with not reunion
Parent not adoptive parent

Download the PDF of Adoption Language by Marainne Guilfoyle.

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Wes and Kate Olufson became certified as Five Acres foster care-to-adoption parents and quickly welcomed Joey, Laura and Aiden into the Olufson family. Trying to place a sibling set of three children in the same home is an extremely challenging task for any social worker. The tragedy of severing the ties between brothers and sisters did not happen with this family, as it does to so many children in the foster care system.

Not only did the Olufsons commit to parenting a sibling set of three children, they committed to keeping the children’s relationships with their birth parents. Wes and Kate were aware of the attachment the children had with their birth parents, so they supported weekly visits. The Olufson family adoption was finalized a year later.


TheOlufsons are a wonderful example for other foster-adoptive families. Wes and Kate have shared their experience with other potential Five Acres foster-adoptive parents during the prospective foster parents' training process with the hope that their courage will inspire other families to consider opening their home and hearts to sibling sets and recognizing the importance of keeping birth family ties for the sake of the children.

Every day there is a child who faces unsafe circumstances due to sexual identity or orientation.
Can you provide a safe home for a LGBTQ youth?
Learn more about becoming a foster or adoptive parent by clicking here
or contact Selena Liu at 909-293-7851.

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